If all goes well, your children will never completely understand you. They will love you and they will learn from you, but your experience will always be foreign to them.
This compassionate piece by Gretchen Schmelzer offers some strong support for the journey of parenting – she offers this amazing and deeply challenging truth that, as a survivor of trauma, if you do your job as a parent well enough, your kids will never fully get you – they will not know the depths of your suffering or your struggle because you’ve worked so hard to set that aside in your parenting and give them a secure and safe childhood. She also addresses the challenges of parenting when your own childhood was lacking in significant ways. A short but powerful piece.