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A sampling of short web reads that I recommend

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Trust in Yourself

When you start to say to yourself; “I trust myself,” you begin to restore faith in your judgment of others and situations, and as a result, you open your heart to love, joy and feeling safe again.

Susanne Babbel, PhD offers this simple somatic exercise to support self-trust in order to eventually facilitate trust in others – we can’t trust others if we don’t trust our own assessments and experiences. For those of us who have had relational betrayals or wounding with close others, trusting can be really scary and hard. Yet remaining distrusting is a path of loneliness and dissatisfaction since we can never really be close to people without taking the risk to be open. Dr. Babbel describes a mindful somatic exercise that guides you through tracking the experience of comfort – it is in this small way that you can begin building more confidence in your ability to feel and assess what is happening.

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Nine Ways to Ruin Romance

Avoiding these nine relationship blunders does not guarantee success on the dating front. No matter what, you’re likely to meet and kiss a few frogs, and to make all sorts of other mistakes when you do find the right person. That said, if you can avoid these common bugaboos, you’re likely to have much more fun and much less angst while looking for your special someone.

Robert Weiss, LCSW gives a great overview of common ways that people inadvertently blow their new relationship. So many of us have bad relational habits or deeply held insecurities or desperation for a partner that results in repelling others – and usually those that we most want close to us! The author breaks the errors down into 3 different categories depending on where you’re at on the new relationship spectrum in very straight-forward, no-nonsense approach. A useful read for those who are looking for a partner and a great barometer for identifying areas that you may want some help with.

The Courage of Parenting with a History of Trauma

If all goes well, your children will never completely understand you. They will love you and they will learn from you, but your experience will always be foreign to them.

This compassionate piece by Gretchen Schmelzer offers some strong support for the journey of parenting – she offers this amazing and deeply challenging truth that, as a survivor of trauma, if you do your job as a parent well enough, your kids will never fully get you – they will not know the depths of your suffering or your struggle because you’ve worked so hard to set that aside in your parenting and give them a secure and safe childhood. She also addresses the challenges of parenting when your own childhood was lacking in significant ways. A short but powerful piece.

mountain lake reflection

Trust in Yourself

When you start to say to yourself; “I trust myself,” you begin to restore faith in your judgment of others and …

hanging hearts

Nine Ways to Ruin Romance

Avoiding these nine relationship blunders does not guarantee success on the dating front. No matter what, you’re likely …

The Courage of Parenting with a History of Trauma

If all goes well, your children will never completely understand you. They will love you and they will learn from you, but …